Divorce takes an emotional and financial toll. You and your soon-to-be ex-spouse have to decide how to divide all your assets, including retirement accounts like your 401(k)s. Finding a solution that both parties can agree on is part of the challenge, but you also have to figure out how to minimize taxes, or you'll lose even more of your savings to the government.
Below, we'll take a look at what typically happens to 401(k) assets during a divorce and what steps you can take to hold on to as much of your savings as possible.
How are 401(k)s split during a divorce?
The way divorcing couples split 401(k)s depends on several factors, including where you live, the balance of each 401(k), how the government taxes the 401(k), and the value of other marital assets.
Most states follow marital property law, which requires marital property to be divided equitably, though not necessarily equally. Community property states require that all marital assets be divided 50/50 in a divorce. Note that the key here is marital assets. In both types of states, any money you put into your 401(k) before you got married isn't considered marital or community property and isn't subject to division in a divorce.
If one spouse has significantly more savings than the other, a court may order the spouse with more savings to give some to the other spouse. But that doesn't necessarily mean you have to liquidate your 401(k) and hand part of it over to your ex.
Dividing your assets
Before you can figure out how to fairly divide your marital assets, you need to know how much you have. You should both get summary plan descriptions (SPDs) of your 401(k)s and other retirement accounts. Then reach out to your plan administrator to learn about any rules your 401(k) plan has for dividing your assets. Share this information with both spouses' divorce lawyers. They'll need it to draft an agreement that the plan administrator will accept. If the administrator rejects your plan, you'll have to go back to the drawing board.
When both spouses have a roughly equal amount of savings in their 401(k)s, each spouse may elect to keep their own savings and leave the other's untouched. But when one spouse has substantially more than the other, things get more complicated.
You can't just take the sum of your collected retirement savings and divide it in half. You also have to weigh how the government taxes the money. Traditional 401(k)s are tax-deferred, which means you owe taxes on your distributions. Roth 401(k)s are funded with after-tax dollars, so you don't owe taxes on your withdrawals. So Roth savings are more valuable than tax-deferred savings, since you'll eventually have to give some of your tax-deferred savings back to the government.
Your financial advisor and divorce lawyers can help you work with your spouse to come up with a solution that works for both of you. The longer your divorce proceedings drag out, the more expensive they become for both of you.
When dividing up your 401(k) funds and other assets, your top priority should be to minimize the taxes and fees you pay, as these can set your retirement savings back even further. It's important that you file all proper paperwork and carefully spell out how you plan to divide your assets. Your divorce lawyers can help with this.
You may not have to do anything with your 401(k) funds if you can offer your spouse other marital assets of comparable value, like a home or car. If they accept this, your retirement savings will be untouched.
If you and your spouse agree that you should give up a portion of your 401(k), you'll need a qualified domestic relations order (QDRO). This is a court order that gives your spouse the right to a portion of the funds in your 401(k). Usually you split your 401(k) into two new accounts. You can continue to manage and contribute to yours, and your spouse can manage their funds and investment options, but they cannot contribute more money to that account directly.
A QDRO is probably your best option for dividing 401(k) funds, but you could choose to withdraw from your 401(k) to pay your ex-spouse. This can result in taxes coming due if the money's from a traditional 401(k), and there will be a penalty if you're under 59 1/2. But you may be able to stipulate in your divorce agreement that your spouse is responsible for these taxes and fees.
You may also be able to roll your 401(k) funds over into an IRA if you've left your employer or your plan allows you to. You can then move your portion of the funds into an IRA in your name and give your spouse their portion in a separate IRA. You may have to pay a small one-time rollover fee to do this, but you won't have to worry about taxes until you withdraw the funds in retirement.
There isn't always an easy solution to dividing your 401(k) assets in a divorce, but you can make the process a little less painful by understanding what your 401(k) plan allows and what your state requires. While it's not always easy, try your best to work with your spouse to come up with a fair solution. It'll make things faster and more affordable for everyone involved.